We recently wrote a blog about how to have money conversations with your partner and the intersection of love and money. As previously discussed, conversations about money can oftentimes cause tensions and awkwardness between two parties. We wanted to continue the conversation with some data from TD Stories’ seventh annual Love and Money Survey.
Money secrets were the main topic of one of their surveys. Their findings showed that despite what couples may share about their relationship and comfortability with money, money secrets are at an all time high. This year’s survey polled over 1,400 U.S. individuals who were either married, divorced, or in a serious relationship. The survey found that “In fact, nearly one-third of Americans (32%) are keeping a financial secret from their partner, an 11% increase from 2021. Despite this increase, 75% of Americans are happy in their relationships, up 7% from 2021, revealing that many could be hiding their financial behaviors to maintain their relationship bliss.”
In recent podcast episodes with Music City Pysch’s David Pearl, we have discussed how to have transparent, honest, judgment-free, conversations with your partner. These conversations are crucial in establishing a strong and honest foundation for the relationship as a whole. It’s very fascinating that even though most of these respondents answered that they feel comfortable discussing finances with their partner, many of them have no intention of sharing their money secret(s). The survey also found that respondents are prone to “letting things slide” and pushing off these financial conversations instead of having these tensioned conversations.
Given the somewhat shocking data listed above, it seems obvious to state the importance of communication and honesty within a relationship. Whether it’s a big purchase you may be hiding, old student debt you’re embarrassed about, or a secret bank account you are keeping, take a step back to uncover why you feel you need to be secretive about your finances and attempt to find a way to bring it up to your partner. If you find yourself in this position, start small and work towards establishing an open and truthful line of communication with the person you are sharing your life with. For more resources and tips on how to facilitate these conversations, check out our podcast episodes with David Pearl or email us at info@shermanwealth.com with more questions. If you would like to discuss your personal or family financial situation, schedule a complimentary intro-meeting here.